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&lt;p&gt;If you&#39;re afflicted with the above uncomfortable workplace situation, take a page from HR consultant Donna Flagg&#39;s new book, &lt;em&gt;Surviving Dreaded Conversations: Talk Through Any  Difficult Situation at Work&lt;/em&gt;. According to Flagg, if all eyes are on the top portion of your blouse as opposed to your face, you should do the following:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;img class=&quot;embeddedObject&quot; src=&quot;http://content.screencast.com/users/dloos/folders/Jing/media/70a9f296-5bfb-46ba-9548-740441e0485e/00000288.png&quot; border=&quot;0&quot; alt=&quot;&quot; width=&quot;316&quot; height=&quot;235&quot; align=&quot;left&quot;&gt;&quot;No matter how uncomfortable [you] may feel about initiating a dialogue, [you&#39;ll] be much better off if [you] forge ahead ... Say to [your] colleague, simply, &#39;I&amp;rsquo;ve noticed that when you speak to me, you don&amp;rsquo;t look me in the eye; you look at my chest. That makes me uncomfortable.&#39;&quot;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Flagg notes that&lt;em&gt; &lt;/em&gt;&quot;she knew a manager who recently had that very wandering eyes conversation with an employee. &#39;He was embarrassed, and he said he was sorry,&#39; she says. &#39;The behavior stopped.&#39;&quot;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Flagg also recommends using this &quot;gentle&quot; phrase for the aforementioned as well as other uncomfortable workplace situations: &quot;I&#39;m not loving that.&quot;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Additional advice on the wandering eye subject can be found in the decade-old &lt;em&gt;Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss  What Matters Most&lt;/em&gt;, written by three members of  the Harvard Negotiation Project, a Harvard Law School program whose mission is &quot;to improve the theory and practice of conflict resolution and negotiation.&quot;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;According to Sheila Heen, one of &lt;em&gt;Difficult Conversations&lt;/em&gt;&#39; authors, &quot;Don&#39;t assume the employee is even conscious that he&#39;s staring at [your] body, or that he has bad intentions. [You] should start the conversation by saying, &#39;I don&amp;rsquo;t know if you&#39;re aware of what you&#39;re doing, and maybe I&#39;m wrong, but it feels like you&#39;re staring at my chest, and that makes me uncomfortable.&#39;&quot;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;(Forbes)&lt;/p&gt;

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